Like most people, I have a bit of a complicated history when it comes to potential romantic partnerships. I will be the first to admit that I ignored, ignored, or completely ignorant of the red flags in past romances. I used to be someone I wasn’t very proud of, someone who was extremely insecure, and I think I relied on the attention and acceptance of others to build my value. I really want to accept the worst behaviors for fear of losing them.
GOOD MEN STILL EXIST I KNOW BECAUSE I MARRIED ONE HE IS MY CAMPING PARTNER SHIRT, HOODIE, TANK TOP, SWEATER
This is a bad habit and behavior pattern that I formed out of my previous relationship – I ignore every red sign that goes into it because my ego dominates. I convinced myself that he deserved every effort and I persisted until I finally put him down. You do not have to say, There was no change in his behavior as we were finally a couple. The red flags turned red billboards, and I ignored all of that as well. I decided to give it up because my self-worth was complicated by a close relationship. The day we finished everything, it boiled up all the little red flags that I had very conveniently overlooked from day one.
I guess what I’ve learned is that people are always showing me who they are. Every ending is predictable, but I have chosen to try and rewrite it. It was my choice to convince myself that times and circumstances change everything, but people rarely change, and if they do, it’s because they want it, not because you want them. In that moment, I realize that I respect and love myself more than ever and I’m not willing to hurt myself, accept less than I deserve, or compromise my values and values. try to rewrite an inevitable ending. I don’t need to do that anymore. I have matured to the point where I can allow myself to disappoint myself because the person I have been hoping for is not the GOOD MEN STILL EXIST I KNOW BECAUSE I MARRIED ONE HE IS MY CAMPING PARTNER SHIRT person I think is him.
Maybe it was intentional, maybe it was just an accident – but there seemed to be an unusually high number of good men on TV last week. And I don’t even count the dedication to John Hume.
Okay, there were three or four of them, including John Hume, and some of them were good men but did bad things … but still more than nothing, it was what we are used to today, in terms of good and bad.
Bad men have dominated our screens for so long, men are so bad they can’t even bother to hide their badness – and by a terrible accident of Historically, many of them appear to be the elected or unelected leaders of time – great nations.